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Men Choose Smart Women over Sexy Ones

Believe it or not, recent research has found that men value brains over sexiness. Even eyes are more important to men than breasts and butt! The research was done by the University of Utrecht where around 3,500 mostly Dutch and highly…
Today: International Men's Day (Photo: Internationalmensday.com)
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Today: International Men's Day

Women have their Day and men too! International Men's Day (IMD) is an annual international event celebrated on 19 November. "Objectives of International Men's Day include a focus on men's and boy's health, improving gender relations,…
Circus Tricks - How do you juggle ex-pat life, children and still try to follow your dream? (Illustrations by Sarah-Leigh Wills and copyright Rembrandt & Kiki 2014)
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Circus Tricks - How do you juggle ex-pat life, children and still try to follow your dream?

Jane Archer-Wilms, British ex-pat, explains how she puts pen to paper, publishes and promotes in between the pooey nappies, playdates and pick-ups. Breed. This was the standard answer if you asked the 16 year old me what I wanted to do…
About basil and lavender’s roots (Photo: Marco Alf)

About basil and lavender’s roots

Since I became an emigrant, I’ve been often asked where I’m from. I come from Italy, is my answer. Yes, but from where? I totter. From the North. From the mountains. Then I keep talking and I say that I’m from a small village and no, there’s…
How about learning Dutch? Things I hated and loved
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How about learning Dutch? Things I hated and loved

I’ve always thought that one of the best things of moving to a foreign country would be to have the chance to learn a new language. Then I moved to the Netherlands. Guess what? Here they speak Dutch. Dutch language To me, the Dutch…
HAARLEM nr 8 of the most romantic small towns in Europe
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HAARLEM nr 8 of the most romantic small towns in Europe

World of Wanderlust just published the top 13 most romantic small towns in Europe: Haarlem in the Netherlands is among them and scored the 8th position. My beloved Cinque Terre are nr. 4. According to World of Wanderlust if you need of…
Streets of Amsterdam
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Streets of Amsterdam

Whenever I visit Amsterdam, the ongoing street scenes, always capture my attention. The feeling of relaxation, the eccentric people walking around, the hobos on the corner hanging out next to the street kids, the busy people who are always…
Anxiety and Expat Life (Photo: Freddie Pena)
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Anxiety and Expat Life

In my work as a psychologist in Amsterdam, I often help and support people with anxiety disorders: panic attacks, chronic agitation, stress, psycho-physical tensions, insomnia, etc. All these conditions are becoming more and more frequent…
Being a Third Culture Kid - Part 2: The Benefits
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Being a Third Culture Kid - Part 2: The Benefits

This article is part 2 of 3 on being a Third Culture Kid (TCK). Summing things up, we are talking about children that have spent a significant part of their development years living out of their home culture, not identifying completely with…
What us Women can learn from the Dutch (Photo: Mum of the World)
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What us Women can learn from the Dutch

We’ve all heard the news that Dutch kids are ranked among the happiest in the world (please note that here “world” means developed countries only). But did you know Dutch parents are also ranked among the happiest, according to the UN’s…
5 reasons to choose for an Omafiets (Granny bike)
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5 reasons to choose for an Omafiets (Granny bike)

When we tell our friends abroad that we have just purchased a new Granny Bike they wonder: ‘What on earth has gotten into them?’ Unrepentant we reply: ‘Because it is the best way of getting around’ Here are the 5 reasons why…
(Image: Carol Rossetti)
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10 Empowering Illustrations to Remind Everyone Who's Really in Charge of Women's Bodies

When Brazilian graphic designer Carol Rossetti began posting colorful illustrations of women and their stories to Facebook, she had no idea how popular they would become. Thousands of shares show the appeal of Rosetti's work. The message is…
Finally! The first comparison site for Dutch health insurance in English (Photo: Globelink)
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Finally! The first comparison site for Dutch health insurance in English

ZorgWijzer.nl has launched the first and only Dutch health insurance comparison tool in English! Expats that are living or moving to the Netherlands can now easily compare different health insurance plans based on their wishes and requirements. The…
A common bond between Expats and the Dutch: manners (Photo: Getty Images)
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A common bond between Expats and the Dutch: manners

On Sunday the Shallow Man ran through the Amsterdamse Bos. The sun was shining and it put me in a philosophical mood, but that doesn’t mean you can call me Sophie. I realised that, in the scheme of things, I’m just a fleck on the custom-made…
Drongo Festival (Photo BIMU)
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Drongo Festival

Drongo Festival: "Languages for your Future", Professional information on multilingualism and playful experimentation with language-jamming, 27 September 2014, Public Library in Amsterdam.  Linguistic matters, as "displaced people"…
Dealing with Dutch Directness: disconnect or connect? (Photo: Creative Mornings)
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Dealing with Dutch Directness: disconnect or connect?

Did you catch the tongue-in-cheek article, “10 ways to fit into Dutch society” (posted 3 June, 2014 on expatsHaarlem), written by Simon Woolcot (a.k.a. Amsterdam Shallow Man)? I was entertained for sure, which I imagine was the whole point.…
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Comparisons of the Dutch with other Europeans

The Shallow Man is a well travelled old fossil. I’ve lived in a country or three and have been fortunate enough to have travelled to a few places during my long slow jog on planet earth. I’ve written lots about various aspects of Dutch…
A problem called "Happiness"
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A problem called "Happiness"

When I was studying psychology at university, I did not imagine that later on as a therapist I would have to face a problem called “happiness.” This mysterious thing we call happiness seems to be a must-have for everyone and - whether…
Cost of renting a home in Amsterdam reaches record levels
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Cost of renting a home in Amsterdam reaches record levels

The cost of renting a home in the free sector in Amsterdam has never been so high. It has reached record levels, with a rise of 5.6% in the previous quarter, according to research by rental agency Pararius. Remarkably, the rents in the rest…
Gendered marketing funny and effectively explained
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Gendered marketing funny and effectively explained

You may think you’re the one deciding what you buy at the supermarket but the reality is that you’re pre-programmed by the companies deciding what you should buy! It doesn’t just stop there, you are even led to specific products because…
Home is a place you can tell about…(Photo: Bertolda)
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Home is a place you can tell about…

He was a chubby kid. He wasn't pretty but with one of those faces with regular features and intense eyes that will always let him find a girlfriend. I would look at him even with please if he wouldn't have had his ass nailed on the bench. It’s…
Primary school in the Netherlands (Photo: Arianna Ardia)
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Primary school in the Netherlands

Compulsory education under Dutch law applies to children of all nationalities from 5 to 18 years who are residing in the Netherlands. Primary school starts at the age of four and is obligatory from five years old. In this article a basic explanation…
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26 Places to Visit Before you Die

Last month online magazine Architecture & Design has made a ranking of their 26 Places to Visit Before you Die. 2 of them are in the Netherlands, very close: Amsterdam and Lisse. Such gorgeous places... I have visited some, others are…
Aikido, a new balance in the life of the Expat
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Aikido, a new balance in the life of the Expat

I have been living in the Netherlands for more than 10 years. Like most expats, I was working for a large international corporation. Last year, I decided to make the big dive by quitting and setting up a one-man company axed on two activities…
Amsterdam 12th most expensive expat city in Europe
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Amsterdam 12th most expensive expat city in Europe

Last month Mercer released its annual Cost of Living City Rankings. The global survey ranked Amsterdam as the 39th most expensive city for expats worldwide and the 12th most expensive within Europe. Cost of Living City Survey Mercer's…
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Amsterdam 11th in worldwide quality of life index

According to Mercer’s Quality of Living Survey, Amsterdam's quality of live has improved, coming in 11th overall in the Mercer 2014 Quality of Living rankings. Previously, the city reached the 12th place.  The Quality of Living Survey Mercer’s Quality…
Belgians drink the most on holiday (Photo: Ibiza.nl)
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Belgians drink the most on holiday

With an average of 3.7 drinks per day, Belgians are the biggest drinkers among European holidaymakers.  This results from a study conducted by the travel website Zoover, surveying 4.000 Europeans from 10 different countries. Dutch…
Being a Third Culture Kid - Part 1: The Challenges (Photo: Chaud)
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Being a Third Culture Kid - Part 1: The Challenges

Do you have small children and are you thinking of moving abroad? Did you shift between cultures as a child? Are your children spending a significant part of their development years in a culture that isn’t their original one? If any of the…
Beer Sommelier: "Beer tastes better tepid than cold" (Photo: Arianna Ardia)
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Beer Sommelier: "Beer tastes better tepid than cold"

Social media are filled by complaints about tepid beer. The beers would be served at much higher temperatures than the ideal five degrees. But according to beer sommelier Gijs Troost it's not so bad as the drink is slightly warmer. The…
5 differences between the Dutch girl you date and marry
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5 differences between the Dutch girl you date and marry

I recently received a message from a reader. “Shallow Man, I’ve been dating a Dutch girl for 18 months now, my family likes her and I’m thinking of asking her to become my wife, I know that a lot of Dutch people just live together and…