If you’re ambitious and a multi-passionate,  you probably have multiple goals and dreams. Whether short-or-long term, they can vary from improving your health and fitness, change your career path or job, to maybe move abroad and start a new life.

The latter was one of my dreams in my early 20’s. Meanwhile, I have lived in 7 different countries and am planning my next move. How? Just keep reading.

Where do you begin? Let’s say you want to start a new business, change careers, or move abroad, maybe you applied for jobs or have been browsing potential destinations you’d like to live. Maybe you scheduled specific times in your calendar and if you’re really ambitious, you have set yourself deadlines.

That’s all great and exactly what I did when I wanted to move abroad. Until I started sharing my ideas with my family, who are the least adventurous people I know.  They began asking a ton of questions and giving me serious doubts about my decision. Suddenly, my motivation took a dive below zero.

When it comes to achieving your dreams, there’s a crucial element that many people tend to leave out, just like me.

I was wasting so much energy before realizing this one SECRET that changed my life. This is a game changer that can transform your life too.

This one key that can help you achieve anything you want is to build your ideal tribe! In other words: find your people.

Surround yourself with supportive people who will motivate you, inspire you and push you toward your goals and dreams.

Build your Tribe

The people you hang out with can either drag you down or lift you up.

Choosing your tribe means taking the time to create a circle of people that are the most positive, supportive people you can find.  This also means letting go of the people who are pulling you down. It took a while for me to realize how much energy the naysayers drained from me.

Let’s say you don’t feel like going to a party, because you rather continue working on your business or plan. You decide to say ‘no’ and explain you need time to continue your plans.

Those who understand this without questioning you are the ones belonging to your tribe. Those who make you feel guilty and don’t understand why you can’t delay your plans are the ones robbing your energy and pooling your back from your goals. The choice is always yours.

It’s a Process

Choosing your tribe is a process, it takes time to create a good circle of people around you.

This social support system is so important because achieving success is hard work. Pursuing your goal requires determination, discipline,  risk, and most of all, motivation.

One of the best ways to stay motivated and energized is through the right social support system. Your tribe are people who are going to encourage you no matter what and keep believing in you. Having supportive people by your side, online or offline, will boost your motivation and keep you on your path to your success.

Having your support system around you is great to boost your confidence. It is a common tip used by successful people which I researched in my book ”Awaken your Confidence”.

Your Tribe Abroad

Whether you live abroad or not, you can build your tribe, keep your tribe and rely on their support. A good tribe has no borders. Living abroad for many years now, my tribe consists of people from different parts of the world. With today’s technology, all I do is pick up the phone, skype, facetime, WhatsApp or even email, it’s so easy to reach out. After a talk with them, I always, always, always feel better, more motivated, inspired, enthusiast and determined to continue pursuing my goals and dreams. They simply ”get” me.

Also, living abroad is a great way to find new inspiration, new like-minded people and new ideas.

Every time I arrive in a new country, I have to rely on strangers. As a result, my intuition and trust in people have grown. I’ve found that those who quickly tell me how great it is to meet me and how wonderful and everlasting our friendship will be are usually the ones I never hear from again after I have moved out of the country. The friends who genuinely care are the ones who remain after years, even if we don’t talk weekly or monthly, but they understand, they don’t question, they trust, encourage and motivate, no matter where I am!

Note: Meeting people and making friends when living abroad is a topic I expand on extensively in my book “Living Abroad Successfully”.

A Tribe for Introverts

A definition of an introvert is someone who prefers calm, minimally stimulating environments. Introverts tend to feel drained after socializing and regain their energy by spending time alone.

Does this mean they are lonely with no friends and never leave their house? Absolutely not! They are often very happy in their own skin and just don’t need a bunch of people around them and can have a perfectly nice time on their own.

Many successful people are introverts, yet they have a supportive crowd around them too. When building a tribe, it’s good to keep in mind that everywhere around you are introverted people and they could be expats just like you. Whether you find others hang out at the airport, the gym, the park, or in co-working spaces, you will have similar needs for solitude or comfortable silences or minimal social activities.

Regardless of our personality type, seek out the tribe that feels best to you, and reach out to them whenever you feel the need, not when you feel ”you should”.

Final Note

Like attracts like. Surround yourself with negative people, and you will become gloomy too. On the other hand, if you surround yourself with positive and confident people, you will become more confident and less stressed. Be yourself and you will attract people that are right for you.

The choice is yours. I choose to surround myself with the people who support and empower me.

Who will you spend your time with?

Keys to Finding Supportive People:

  • Choose carefully and find your positive crowd.
  • Don’t let naysayers sap your energy.
  • Be yourself and you will attract people that are right for you.

 

Rachel Smets

TEDx Speaker, Author, Culture Trainer at Rachel Smets at Rachel Smets Coaching
To help expats anywhere in the world, I wrote the book 'Living Abroad Successfully: What, When, Where, How', an Amazon's Bestseller.Also, author of 'Awaken Your Confidence: 15 People share their Journey to Success'.
As an expat myself, I have been living and working in various countries, speak 6 languages, and experienced many challenges that I learned to turn around into new opportunities.
Workshops in cultural diversity and keynote speaking is what I enjoy doing.
I love to inspire people and help them to become their best selves! Life changes, and so can you!