erectile dysfunction

When it doesn’t get up.

A funny title for an article about a not so funny experience for many men who have difficulties with keeping their erection during sex. I am a man myself and a Sex counselor in Amsterdam and I know how much this topic is sensitive and can cause…
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Flirtation and landing a date: is flirtation a foreign concept in the Netherlands?

Flirtation is defined as behaviour that shows that you find somebody sexually attractive but are not serious about them. (Oxford Advanced Learners Dictionary, 8th ed.). In essence it is an interest in something but for a very short time. Connotations…
‘sexual consent and tea’
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New brilliant ‘sexual consent and tea’ video from the English police

Sex and consent is a difficult issue, mainly because something that seems so simple is continually ‘misunderstood’ in rape cases. Thames Valley Police made an easily comprehensive and effective video on this subject. One of our readers brought…
sexual culture shock
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Sexual Cultural Shock

“Is he good in bed?” Oh my Lord, did he just say that?? How dare he! The question shocks me and nearly knocks me off my feet. And then he follows, “how does he compare with black men?” I was astounded. This comes from a random Dutch…
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Teen sex in Holland

Would You Allow Your Teen to Have Sex at Home? One of the most challenging and satisfying aspects of expat life is discovering and considering new traditions and ideas about life that are perhaps different from what you’re used to.…
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Men Choose Smart Women over Sexy Ones

Believe it or not, recent research has found that men value brains over sexiness. Even eyes are more important to men than breasts and butt! The research was done by the University of Utrecht where around 3,500 mostly Dutch and highly…
Half of the Dutch cheat

Half of the Dutch cheat

Almost half of all Dutch sometimes cheats.  According to a research study by Psychology Magazine. After the act, they feel very guilty. 2,300 people participated to the research survey (500 men, 1800 women). Results of the survey 43%…

'Men from their 39th no longer interesting for women'

Guys lose their sex appeal at the age of 39. Then they start becoming  sexually invisible to younger women. As they reach the age of 39 men are viewed as father figures rather than sex symbols. This is written in the Daily Express,…
The Amsterdam Casual sex guide (Photo: Thinkstock)

The Amsterdam Casual sex guide

The sun has been shining in Amsterdam, everywhere I look I see what appears to be the new fashion trend here, micro hot pants, or as the Jamaicans call them ‘batty riders.’ Here’s a tip for my female readers. If you’re wearing a backless…
10 ways to fit into Dutch society

10 ways to fit into Dutch society

It’s another beautiful day in the Netherlands, time to sit on a terrace and have the pleasure of inhaling cigarette smoke from those sitting nearby. If Van Gogh and Rembrandt were alive today, their paintings would feature buxom ladies with…
Dutch Wingman condom makes “furore” in Germany (Picture WN)

Dutch Wingman condom makes “furore” in Germany

The Wingman condom is presented these days at the Hannover Messe, the most important industrial fair in the world. Here the Wingman condom, also known as the one hand condom, got a lot of attention.  The Bild, the biggest German newspaper…